A perennial concern with utilitarian impartiality is that it seems to imply that our personal concerns are completely misguided. As a parent, my son’s well-being is hugely important to me. But from the point of view of the universe, he’s just one person amongst billions. If utilitarianism implied that we don’t have such strong reasons to pursue what’s best for our children, that would make the theory difficult to believe. It would fly in the face of (what many parents take to be) our surest normative convictions.
But why think that utilitarianism has such implications? The implicit argument seems to be something like:
1. My son matters no more than anyone else, impartially speaking.
2. Other individuals don’t much matter, impartially speaking.
So, 3. My son doesn’t much matter, impartially speaking.
But clearly we should reject premise 2! A much better way to proceed after the first premise would be:
2*. My son matters immensely.
So, 3*. Other individuals, likewise, matter immensely.
As a general rule, when other theorists posit compelling agent-relative reasons (e.g. to care about one’s own children), I don’t want to deny them. I’d rather expand upon those reasons, and make them agent-neutral. You think your kid matters immensely? Me too! In fact, I think your kid matters so much that others (besides you) have similarly strong reasons to want your kid’s life to go well. And, yes, you have similarly strong reasons to want other kids’ lives to go well, too.
We tend not to notice those latter reasons so much. So it might seem incredible to claim that you have equally strong reasons to want the best for other kids. (They sure don’t feel as important to us.) But reasons only get a grip on us insofar as we attend to them, and we tend not to think much about strangers—and even if we tried, we don’t know much about them, so their interests are apt to lack vivacity.
The better you get to know someone, the more you tend to (i) care about them, and (ii) appreciate the reasons to wish them well. Moreover, the reasons to wish them well don’t seem contingent on you or your relationship to them—what you discover is instead that there are intrinsic features of the other person that makes them awesome and worth caring about. Those reasons predate your awareness of them. So the best explanation of our initial indifference to strangers is not that there’s truly no (or little) reason to care about them (until, perhaps, we finally get to know them). Rather, the better explanation is simply that we don’t see the reasons (sufficiently clearly), and so can’t be emotionally gripped or moved by them, until we get to know the person better. But the reasons truly were there all along.
It’s hard to be motivated by merely abstract knowledge of the existence of reasons, when the concrete reasons themselves are not within your grasp. So our partial patterns of concern are more or less what we would expect, even assuming that both (i) all reasons are impartial, and (ii) we generally respond correctly to reasons (once grasped). After all, we correctly respond to the reasons we’re vividly acquainted with. The problem is that we’re not vividly acquainted with all the reasons that there really are. And of course correctly responding to a subset of reasons (while failing to grasp others) can lead us significantly astray.
Importantly, on this “leveling-up” interpretation of utilitarian impartiality, our personal concerns are not “completely misguided”. On the contrary: we’re absolutely right to care so much about our loved ones! Where we go wrong is in our deficient treatment of others.
So when others decry utilitarianism as a cold, drab view, I think they couldn’t be more wrong. They imagine leveling down till we have but tepid concern for all. But that’s the wrong view. The better view of utilitarianism involves leveling up: taking all the warmth and wonder and richness that you’re aware of in your personal life, and imaginatively projecting it into the shadows of strangers.
We glimpse but a glimmer of the world’s true value. It’s enough to turn our heads, and rightly so. If we could but see all that’s glimpsed by various others, in all its richness, depth, and importance, we would better understand what’s truly warranted. But even from our limited personal perspectives, we may at least come to understand that there is such value in everyone, even if we cannot always grasp it directly. And if we strive to let that knowledge guide our most important choices, our actions will be more in line with the reasons that exist—reasons we know we would endorse, if only we could see them as clearly as we do the ones in our more personal vicinity.
And yes, from the outside this may look like being moved by drab shadows rather than the vibrant values we grasp closer to home. But of course it isn’t really the shadows that move us, but the promise of the person beneath: a person every bit as complex, vulnerable, and vibrant as those you know and love.
I think your article is spot on. Given that your son is not objectively more important in virtue of being your son, relative to someone else's son, valuing your son more, independently of instrumental considerations, involves not caring about what is fundamentally important. Utilitarians can still give a perfectly adequate account of why you should practically value your son more, given that caring deeply for ones offspring makes things go best. However, baking personal relationships and partiality into our fundamental account of morality seems to clearly misidentify what ultimately matters.
Great article. I think that one of the greatest advantages of utilitarianism (or maybe generally beneficience) is the sheer grandness of its ambitions, and giving people acutally-achievable utopian visions can be a great pull toward the philosophy. Showing people the great advances in recent decades in the reduction of extreme poverty, and putting faces to those people whose lives have improved, is a great step. Show people the drastic difference between $2 and $5 a day, or the lives saved by good pandemic response. It's harder to dismiss mere pleasure and pain calculations when you understand what it means to no longer live with the anxiety of getting kidnapped or not finding food to eat.
My grandmother, who lived through World War II and was born in a Greek village where she was one of few girls to attend high school, today lives with a high standard of living without needing to work, and is likely to live to 100 with sound mind. I very much want a society where as many people as possible can expect this sort of life. Utilitarianism takes the radically optimistic step of saying, "Yes, we will achieve that ideal future by any means necessary."
(Arguably this utopian perspective can itself get dangerous if its ambitions run ahead of its science; which is why it is important to qualify its ambitions with humility and frequent sanity checks.)